Molly很醜，是亞洲人家不會養的那種
Ros說這種狗原來是引進在牧場趕馬羊用，後來發現牠們性情溫和對孩子很友善，於是越來越多家庭養來陪孩子玩耍
Ros知道Molly喜歡梳毛，偶爾晚餐出門前有空會幫Molly來個沒理由的獎賞
我在的期間也會為了討好Molly，吃早餐時餵她吃水果，天氣熱喝冰水時餵她吃冰塊，只要Molly靠近腳邊就伸手騷騷她脖子，我知道她愛的很，Molly沒事也會靠過來討愛
幾年前家裡養了一隻馬爾西斯王仔米
有次我在房間落淚難過，仔米默默靠過來舔掉我臉上的淚水
狗不說人語，人透過觀察了解狗的喜好與之親近互動
人不說狗語，憑藉著朝夕相處產生密不可分的情感
人與人用地球上最完整的語言系統溝通加上語調及肢體協助，仍能產生所謂的溝通不良
是我們對彼此觀察的不夠還是用心不足
無怪乎人自稱是宇宙中最難解最複雜的動物
寫完這些直到洗澡入睡前我的腦袋仍在思考這個問題
或許是錯誤的期待導致
試想如果主人開門，狗沒來迎接，狗主腦袋閃過的不是先對狗生氣，而是擔心狗是不是怎麼了，而兩人相約定的事，如果一方沒做到，首先反應肯定是先生氣而不是先關心對方的實際狀況
也許是信賴感太容易瓦解
人跟狗玩，不論叫牠幾次一喊牠就會跑來
人呢?!
不管是掃地或是耙樹葉，都要參一腳的Molly
真的很醜吧!!
to Terry
I am trying to write this in English for you.
This short essay is talking about "communication"
We all love Molly(dog).So we carefully observed the behavior of dogs(Molly)
Then we understand how to do with them.
I saw Ros combed for Molly and Molly enjoyed it.
I fed Molly with fruits and ice cube, because I felt she like.
People can not speak "dog language",Dogs just bark woof woof, we also can communicate.
But people we use the most perfect communication system "language" with tonation and body language.In fact, we misunderstand each others all the time.
why!!
Maybe people we are in different expectation.
Maybe we expect wrong to others.
or
It's difficult to make the relationship based on trust.
Lily, I enjoyed talking to you last night via sms. I have read your blog a few times and think I understand what you are saying
ReplyDeleteI thought that we don't speak 'dog' language but by careful observation we can understand and communicate.
I don't speak Mandarin [ wish I did] but you speak enough English for us to communicate. I am so glad you can speak English.
But even though we understand the words that are spoken we may not understand the people who are speaking them.
I will try to understand 'Lily' as you will understand 'Terry' that is the hard part.
Lily you and I may not understand each other because I don't speak your language and you can speak some of mine but one thing we understand more than words is what we see in each others eys and when we embrace.
We can understand dog because dog is lower than human but to understand each other is harder because we are equal but we don't really understand who we are which makes it hard to understand the other. So I think if we learn to understand God who made us then we can understand each other better.
Terry,I agreed with"we understand more than words is what we see in each others eys and when we embrace" very much. I made the most sensible decision this summer was visited you.
ReplyDeleteI was so happy that I did it.
Now here, this is the other way you can understand me, it also helps me to understand myself.
Thanks...
Yes it was a very brave decision and a very good decision. You didn't know how it would be, nor did we. But now we know each other and Ros and I often talk about you. We would love to have you come back.
ReplyDeleteI am hoping that I can get to Taiwan sometime so we can meet again.
As I told you I have many problems at the moment in my job. I have to make some very hard decisions about friends who have been disloyal to me.
I havent used a blog before so I have something to learn. You can be my teacher.
Did you know that when you sent me a message I was just looking at the blog just like when I sent you message and asked you about crossing the bridge and you were. That is called coincidence. Very special.
Lily. Can you tell me more about why you think it was such a sensible decision to come to visit? Your answer may help me understand you better.
ReplyDeleteI also have another question Lily. Why do you have a blog? I have not done this before. What is the difference between sending messages via FB and via this blog?
ReplyDeleteI think it is great but am unfamiliar with this. I would like to understand better.
Terry
Why do I have a blog?
ReplyDeleteI like to write down the moment in my heart. Then I can come back to read and remind myself.
My friend Selena laught at me about using e-dictionary to write on Fb my newest post.She commented "This was why you used the e-dictionary this whole aftermoon?"
Yes, it is hard for me to write in Enhlish,for her easy because she major in English. But I try to write,even she laught at me in public. I told I will write in English for you.
A sensible decision to come to visit you?
ReplyDeleteMany things we can not judge it good or bad for us before we do it. In the beginning, I just wanted to visit one of my friend that I told him lots of times "I will visit you".I did my promise.
I thought this is God return the gift for me. I got more than I did the promise.
I am very thanks,gleeful....
So that why I said very sensible decision I had made.
Thanks Lily,
ReplyDeleteI think I understand. Firstly it is good to talk and it helps to express yourself in English. I am so sorry that I can't speak Mandarin, if you spoke Indonesian I could talk to you in that language but not Chinese, I find it very hard.
I am pleased that you were blessed by your trip to Darwin. We were, we really enjoyed your company. I know I did.
Is this site secure? Can other people see what we write?
I look forward to reading more of your posts.
I hope you will also ask me some questions too
Terry